Saturday, 4 August 2012

Conversation. But not as we know it.


There is probably no such thing as ‘normal’ where teenagers are concerned. They’re full of surprises; you never quite know where they’re coming from. So this evening’s entertainment could not have been predicted, except perhaps in the sense of  it’s being typical of the way my boys approach the world. Why should we assume they need to focus on one job at a time, as we were encouraged to do: ‘sit down and read a book’, ‘let’s play a game’, ‘switch off that radio and do your homework’? I probably don’t set a particularly good example myself, in that I often have the radio on in the background as I’m doing domestic chores. This is especially unwise in that I frequently have to switch down the sound in order to stand half a chance of understanding the…what can you call them? Grunts is too short. Outpourings too emotional. Perhaps just ‘sounds’ that are thrown in my general direction without warning, from distant rooms or – one of their favourites – from doorways?

Tonight’s was a particularly diverse (= random) collation partly because I had little in the fridge, again, and partly in order to finish up some odds and ends. So maybe six or seven things on the go. And an interesting programme on the wireless. Allegedly. Jack was initially cleaning his car and wanted to know how he could get a water stain out of his car seat. Charlie was trying to get his phone reconnected by actually paying his overdue bill. As I moved the fishcakes into the top oven, he threw some figures at me complaining that he was overdrawn and I, typical guilty parent, immediately started working out how much I could give him to get things straight. ‘Why does this jumper say hand wash when it’s 100% cotton? See: look at the label.’ Jack had moved on to getting some washing into the machine, despite the fact that we have someone ‘viewing’ the house in a couple of days and I didn’t want the place littered with his drying clothes.

As I cut the cabbage, I agreed that the culprit might be a tiny leather tab on the zip. “Those stupid bastards at Virgin say they can’t take the payment’ is the sort of comment that needs no response, besides I had a cheese sauce that needed some attention and, mercy me!, I appeared to have quite forgotten to put the awfully named Pollock pie from the microwave into the top oven. ‘I’m going to machine wash it anyway’ seemed like a good solution to that one, especially since Jack had, by now, sat down to fill in a complicated form to claim a refund for a trip to the dentist. I could see trouble ahead; best get some butter on those potatoes while I still had the chance.

‘Sorted’ announced son no. 2 a couple of minutes later in a tone that clearly required me to enquire for further details of how he had been so clever. But not necessarily to listen in detail. I heard something about what the bastards at Lloyds Bank had or hadn’t done as I was giving the mash a quick stir round. And then Liz, my lodger, strolled casually through the kitchen after her shower, wearing just a towel round her. As you do. 

‘Am I living in a care home?’ was just the right sort of question to bring me back to reality. ‘Noooo, I don’t think so,’ I said out loud with a definite hint of uncertainty in my voice.

It was time to get some plates out, so we could enjoy some of that quality family conversation that is supposed to happen round the dinner table but of which, alas, I can remember little. We old people just can’t focus, can we?




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